I really don't think she's after money. She has her own business and owns a house. She's probably better off than us. But I guess my H is worried that now he'll need plane tickets to see his D and plane tickets to see his girlfriend. That could get expensive, haha.
GMUM
I think you mentioned the OW is getting (or is already) divorced. Your H is getting plenty of advice from her, essentially free legal advice. I can almost guarantee you that he understands what you are legally entitled too and he is doing his best to make sure you don't know that. And also to make sure you don't get it.
With temporary orders, you would have likely been allowed to stay where you are currently living.
You said yourself that your boundary keeps moving with your H.
What is your thought on spousal support? You said you won't let him give you less child support, what about spousal?
In most states, child support is actually regulated by the state because it is for the child. If he thinks that the amount is optional, you have a problem (well, he does). But if you are overseas I am very concerned that you are vulnerable unless you have the proper protections placed in the decree.
Also, an OW who is (or has already) gone through a divorce is busy giving your H free legal advice (since she has or likely is paying an attorney). You are very trusting. I suspect that your H knows exactly what he is doing, the pushing you out of the country, the trying to get you to settle.
You have done him a huge favor by not filing for temporary support. Had you done this the court would had likely ordered him to protect the status quo, your current living situation, etc.
And what if he stops paying on the new place because he doesn't like the terms you ask for in the divorce? You really need to think of your daughter. I know you think your H has her best interest at heart and possibly yours, but the forcing you out of the country makes me very uncomfortable for both of you.
