Mut, of course it is more complicated than who is right and who is wrong. But it does seem like you all the work and it is time to let go of the self blame. I think you are on the right track as far as your thoughts, but maybe find a way to phrase it with a little less judgment?
I am on the same page as you, by the way, you know I am. I told H in our last MC session that I am done being in crisis and done with the self blame. And I meant it. I think maybe you are ready to detach. I think this is a healthy new attitude for you. And this can lead to some movement in your own emotional state, which will potentially lead to some movement in W's.
Also, right now your W seems ok with the status quo, but I doubt that she is content with the way things are, how could she be? Who would want to live this way, who would choose it, unless they were paralyzed with fear or depression or just truly not knowing what else to do.
Regardless of what W says or does, it is time for you to let go of the self blame. You have carried that around long enough! Time to be free and live your life in the present without that weighing you down. You deserve to be free from that burden, you deserve to happy.
