gs9, this would be a great time for you to get a DB coach. They can give you individualized attention to help you figure out what your next steps are. That's great that she's working on herself and wants to try counseling. Make sure you get a MC who can really help you focus on moving forward with the marriage, if that's what you want. I actually found an IC who used to be a DB coach, but she doesn't really use those techniques with me. I also have a coach, but haven't set up a session since before I moved out. I thought I'd wait and see what the next weeks bring. Or months. sigh.
