Hey LostGirl! Sounds like you've got your hands full with your H.
To answer your questions of me, whether I took Effexor because of my sex life, I resisted taking ADs for a long time because I know that they are not what you need to be taking for situational depression. However, my "sitch" was the lack of affection, intimacy, and yes, sex, in my M, and it showed no signs of changing, so "situational" became "chronic." I was going into these long inner monologues that would begin when I woke up, and would occur periodically during the day, and often, would keep me awake at night. They were always about how I felt unloved, trapped, and hopeless. Those monologues still happen, but they are short, less hopeless, less desperate. They no longer control my thoughts.
There was nothing else to speak of that was really contributing to my depression.
Effexor was the first AD my doctor prescribed. I had done some research and couldn't decide between Wellbutrin and Effexor, and my doc said that he had prescribed both and had had better results with Effexor. That was good enough for me, as I really trust him.
I wish you luck in dealing with your situation...you have a challenging road ahead, but don't we all, in one way or another?
