LBH w/ a WXW after the D - now what

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NYGal,
WXW has definitely not been going out as much as she was when we were still M which is weird. I think she may be actually spending some time alone to work on herself. Since our D on 2 different occassions she has told me she loves me, she wants to start couples counseling, she wants to date and remarry. I'm not sure how I feel about this. I definitely want my family back but I don't know that she has hit rock bottom enough to make the changes that would give us a healthy M.

As far as the house. I'm keeping the house. I feel like I want to be very careful about dating and having anyone stay the night bc we could be back together and don't want any additional stumbling blocks. This home could someday be our marital home and again and i don't want to create any problems.