Hi Inpain, I tell my kids that I don't know why their dad isn't coming. I leave it like that. I know it hurts for your kids, unfortunately you can't control what your H does. For your son, if he is persistent, I'll tell him that you honestly don't know why his dad isn't coming.
It's really hard as our kids are hurt but in the long run they will realise that you have never stopped him from seeing them and that their dad chose not to see them.
Hang in there. What are your plans for today? Did you get snow?
