In the Arena III- Becoming Hilariously Pleased

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Jelly

I can give you my (a mans) perspective. For me, the best balance of having space and being together is always changing. Some days you may want to lie in bed together for as long as possible and other days you may want to jump up and take the world head on. Most married men I know seem like they can't get far enough away from their wives for as long as possible. And most married women I know seem like they always want their husbands around.

I think it is inherent in men to want to have their own life outside of marriage for the most part. I don't really see it as much in women. (Until of course they run WW on you) . Of course this is skewed logic from a manly mans perspective, I'm just telling you what I have seen. For me and my marriage, W and I worked together for a long time and that is when she says she was most happy with me. I sometimes felt like we were together all the time and needed a break from each other. As you bring kids into the picture other things change. The focus is all on them and the husband can get away more. Not that that is a good thing either.

I don't think there is any such thing as a perfect match so you can dismiss that notion out of hand. That is why it's called a relationship, you must relate to the other and work together to find what works best for both. Good discussion.