So have been trying to work something out and seem to be going around in circles about it.
So we know I have been the poster child for co-dependency in my previous relationships with Mr M and Mr Ex. And I feeling pretty confident at the moment that I have a handle on the places where I get myself into trouble.
But I keep coming back to individuation. The ability to be together but separate. I liken it my head something to detachment, but a kinder more loving version.
I know that I have been guilty of getting all of my happiness, self worth,self- love and fulfillment from the men in my life. I feel much happy on my own as in being single. My level of self worth and self love goes up in this time to, only marginally I must say.
I am very confused about this. How much space do people give each other in relationships? What happens when one person needs more than another. Does there have to be a perfect match on the need for space and freedom for it to be a contented, loving relationship or can this be worked through when there is a miss match, Or are you better at finding someone who needs and wants the same level of space, freedom and intimacy.
All this questions have come up as I have realised that the only place in the world where I actually feel loved in when I am with a man who I believes loves me.
Can someone provide some clarity please. Sorry if all of the above is clear as mud.
