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I wonder why he thinks that's ok? Did he do that to others before BD? Is this a totally new behavior? That's rude on any level and to anyone. That sounds like a boundary that needs to be set, like a visitation schedule. As in, if you tell us you are coming and are a no-show, you need to apologize to your children before you can visit with them. Out of decency. Very rude behavior, and cruel to children who want to see their father. He MUST know he is damaging this relationship with his kids?