Huddy, you are right to not let yourself be bullied but you came across as being controlling yourself.Just because she asked/wants you to do something is not a reason not to do it. I think you are right in what you are doing but sometimes are borderline to crossing over where you don't want to go.
Just a friendly observation.....not a critic.
Without giving false hope I think you may get her back. If you still want her by then!
All the best.
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together