Back to square one, not sure I can do this again!

[runn79r]

I'm an advocate for not thinking about them or centering your thoughts on them but fully appreciate how hard that is to do.

One thing you may try to make things easier is to think about all the different scenarios that could be taking place, not just the one you have automatically created in your head. Some of these will be easier to live with and you will start to learn not to make assumptions that drive you crazy.

For example, if they are out for her birthday and she's the type of woman that has no problem being as brash as you described, maybe they are out with a bunch of friends and she's ignoring him while hitting on other men. I've seen that happen a million times and he will feel alone and betrayed by her poor behavior. Funny thing is that will make him pursue her more but if she's that type, she will be turned off by him and walk away for the next guy that intrigues her. Bitter karma for him.

So you can see in that scenario is the thing that attracts him is the chase. As long as you are focused on him there is no chase. If you GAL and have no need for him he will be intrigued. That's the point where you will need to decide if you even want a person like him in your life. He will have to earn it.

Having power is key. Not over someone else, over yourself and your own destiny. Do the things that remove his power over you and puts it in your own hands.