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She continues to want to talk in code - lots of anger and hurt, and wants to get it out with passive-aggressiveness. This is her native language - she's always learned from her mother on how to get her way with snide comments, in a way to deflect the hurt.

When I no longer engage in that code, she's getting really upset.

Anyone know how I should proceed? Should we see a counselor together? I'm just tired of her having a thought and feeling in her head, but it not coming out honestly, but in sarcasm and double-talk.