I dropped the rope and was actually cold and firm. Started having as little interaction as possible. I does feel better to take control back of your life and not buy into their narrative. She got upset at first and I kept it up. I was nice when it was warranted, but stopped accepting BS as fact and would call her on it.
Then there was a bomb drop for her, consequences for her actions as well as exaggerations and lies about her. I chose to help her and shut down a rumor when someone approached me. I could have just said, "why yes, she is a cheating whore" In any case, she completely changed and it was a chance to connect. Not sure where it is going, but I am going to continue down the LRT path anyway and see what happens. I will only validate or talk if she initiates and wants someone to listen. I don't want to take a small positive connection and pursue because of it.
H:54 W:46 D:11 D:21 M:12 BD:1/15 In-house Separation 2/15 DB started 7/15, W sees consistency 9/15 Dropping the rope and having her leave 2/16, moves 5/16 Reconciliation 1/17 Obviously still struggling
In any case, she completely changed and it was a chance to connect. Not sure where it is going, but I am going to continue down the LRT path anyway and see what happens. I will only validate or talk if she initiates and wants someone to listen. I don't want to take a small positive connection and pursue because of it.