I have a few ideas - but you've already tried them.
The first is to stop thinking about her. Every time you catch yourself, redirect.
Keep busy, busy, busy...that way you'll distract yourself from thinking about her.
Try redirecting the boys. They know you hear them, so they talk to you a lot about it. They want you to do something. They don't realize it's out of your control - nor should you tell them. Just gently nudge them in a different direction when they start. If it were up to you, it would be fixed already. It keeps all of you focused on it.
You were doing so much better when you were avoiding her. I'm really confused sometimes around here. A lot of good things can happen from a friendship, so be friends. Do not contact so they have to miss you. I hear both. Which is the right approach? For you, I think it's a combo of both.
I think you should limit your contact as much as you can, but be friendly when you're around her. But last week was rough, because you were around her all the time. Why so much, D? Was it impossible to walk away and go talk with someone else? Or was it a matter of you enjoying yourself with her so much that you didn't even try?
I'm really racking my brain for you - but that's all I've got. I don't want to tell you to focus on all the things she does that irritate you, because that kills your PMA, but it could help with detaching. I don't think we should try this yet.
What do you think?
I know what happened to Fo. She and her H had a huge disagreement, and she broke down. I really don't think that's the route you want to take. She's really seeing him with negative eyes these days. She's trying, but old stuff is bubbling up and making it hard for her.
