Hi NYGal - Just stopping by to offer you some support. These are the worst days. Really. You are at the bottom, but you're already looking towards getting up and out. This hurts like nothing anyone who hasn't been through it can imagine. I really feel for you - and truly understand what you're going through. I'm so sorry. (((NYGal)))
Please don't become a stalker. If you have to grit your teeth, white-knuckle it, and take it one day at a time - do so. Don't ever drive by there. Ever.
What is WAW is looking out the window? You just let her know you still care, and that you're snooping. Don't do that - for your own self-respect.
What if OW is out front, and sees you drive by? What is she grins at you? Do you want to put yourself through that? Dont't do it.
We've got one here who is driving by. We're doing our best to stop her. It does no one any good at all, and prolongs the pain. You've got the basics down pat. Just do it; one day at a time, then one week at a time - you'll build a fear in her that she's really lost you. At that point, many things could happen.
The point is though, NONE of them will happen as long as you're in the picture. Remind yourself of this as often as you need. This is some hard, hard work you're doing.
Post here, vent here...we've all been there and are happy to help you through.
I just have this feeling about you - I think you're going to do really well as soon as you put your mind to it. I really do.
