Babe, You need to try to remember that they are very emotional during the crisis and if something doesn't sit right w/them, they can and most likely spew. They can spew right up until they get through the deep, dark depression/withdrawal. If he's spewing at you, say "h, I'm sorry you feel that way or having a bad day" and then walk away. When you don't engage w/them, they will eventually simmer down. The more you engage, the more you are pouring gasoline on their emotional fire and justifying why they have left you.
To answer your question, yes, they can spew for a very long time, i.e., right up thru the withdrawal stage and sometimes in the acceptance stage (depending upon whether they are revisiting all of the stages before settling down). The stages are not linear, but they can bounce back and forth through them at the drop of a hat.
A crisis can last a long time. It's certainly not a sprint, but a marathon and it will try your patience. So, if you going to stand, dig deep for lots of patience because you will most certainly need it.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
