Quote: My therapist says it's because I was so afraid she was going to leave me that I held on to tight and tried to control her, so I basically made happen just what I was trying to avoid.
Almost ALL OF US on this BB could have said the very same thing about ourselves. Personally, I tried so hard to protect myself (from my eventual self fulfilling prophecy of being abandoned emotinonally/physically) that I put up a false front of tremendous independance from my H. While I was unwittingly acting indifferent to my H and taking his commitment to our M...'for better or worse' for granted...he found someone that had NO problem showing him that he was special...and so...I wound up here.
I've learned a great deal about myself and my H (since June of 2002) and as painful as the lessons have been, there's a part of me that's grateful for them because no matter what...today I am a better person to MYSELF than I have ever been. And, as a result, I will become a better partner in this or any future relationship I might have.
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