Quote: I grew up in a household where my dad was THE definite ruler, you either did what he told you, or you got the crap beat out of you. He is in the oilfield and when I was young, he traveled alot, but when he came home he reminded you who was boss. My mom took alot of her frustrations with my dad out on us boys ( I have two older brothers) and as with my dad, it didn't matter where the belt landed or how hard it hit when you were punished, head, back, legs...all over really. They also fought ALOT, verbally and some physical...throwing things also. My brothers and I witnessed this first hand.
Similar sitch, substitute oilfield for construction, with my H except my H's mom is an alcoholic. I don't know what H's parents situation was like although from what my H has told me his mom would make things up that H did or change her story once H's dad was back home, I get the feeling she betrayed my H a lot, referred to her as a backstabber more than once.
Is your Father still alive? Have you forgiven your father or worked through your childhood issues...how old are you?
