Is - The harder you fight to keep her, the more she will resent you. This is why you're supposed to be focusing on you. You are doing far too much watching of W.
In my case, I let H go. He was making me miserable right along with him. I decided it would be best to give him what he thinks he wants - how else will he ever be able to figure out he's making a mistake?
If she is just bound and determined that this is what she wants, give it to her. Focus on you. A lot of times this is what turns the situation around - but it never works if you're doing it as a test. You have to really let go.
