That would be wonderful. Are you doing the same list for mum?
A friend of mine has an academic brother and he has undertaken a review of the FOO of being in care and a package of books arrived today for me. A lot of research papers on FOO issues.
One paper that struck me by Hamish Caynham on relationships with mothers when fathers are abusive. How this can escalate abuse if the father feels jealous of his children (especially the eldest boy). It's possible that in some sitches dads project their feeling about mum onto their wife. Unable to distinquish between the two, they feel they compete for their wife and they treat their children with great hostility. I wonder if this is a factor with your father. Did you sense he was competing with you for attention?
My big concern here is actually the family pet being abused, mainly the implication this was done to frighten his children who would feel powerless to intercede. We lost a goldfish and the whole family had a burial ceremony and planned a rose bush in honor. This was a goldfish!
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Until we can mourn the past we are doomed to repeat it
