WAW - Detaching is the Hardest Thing

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W looked like she was chewing a wasp this evening. I offered to pick her up from the railway station, saving her a 20 min walk in the cold. She accepted but hardly said a word in the car or later at home.

She went to bed at 9:50 and I asked if I had done so teething wrong or was she just down (after funeral yesterday). She said fed up, down , and tired.

I can see this continuing. She feels trapped. I won't leave the house, I won't separate. The funeral is over, she is trapped with a man she doesn't love.

So what do I say when the next R talk is initiated by her??

W: I can't live like this any longer, I don't love you, we need to move on, I want us to separate. We can't live in this limbo forever. I don't want to hate you but I feel trapped. I will end up resenting you.
Me:???????