And, Kyrie, it is also a tool to help us during the time when our spouse has one foot out the door. This is not the same advice you'd get if you and your spouse were hitting a rough patch and were both on board with reconciling, it is a way of coping with uncertainty and trying to preserve your own emotional health and giving your marriage the best chance of pulling through this.
I am starting to think Kyrie that part of your "not getting" certain concepts is that you are thinking of this as marriage advice, DB'ing is for more for people who are in crisis, who have one partner who is in the process or at least seriously thinking about leaving, or even who has already left.
No we're still in crisis. It's just protracted.
Me: 42, H: 38 Married: 12 years (second M for me) 14D, 9D 2015 EA (PA??), porn addict, *pastor/counselor* MLC
At a counselor, he said he wanted the marriage but not to work on himself w/a IC. Piecing?
