So, it goes to prove that when you stand up to your WAS, they will get extremely angry and manipulative when you don't play by their rules!
Absolutely. The worst spew I get is when I stand up for myself. This is new behavior from me and STBXH doesn't care for it much. I always get attacked when I disobey in some fashion - such as not agreeing with something he says...so ridiculous.
This situation is not fun. I cannot recommend it for anyone.