Flight's Thread #2

[Flight]

I think I agree with you. What I am finding is the key piece of all this is "do what works". Everyone's situation is not the same. Just for the sake of argument, let's say there are 10 types of affair/WAW situations. One may benefit from "keeping home a safe place" and another may need "kick her to the curb".

But ultimately, it comes down to self respect. And if you are being a doormat, and feeling poorly about yourself, who else would be attracted to that. I have found that I have caved too easily whenever I was thrown the bone. When she needed me for something, she became sweet again. Offered me thanks and to give me a hug.

So I am continuing to be nice from a distance but totally moving on with my life and doing what I want to do. I am even suggesting ways she can move out and working on agreements we need to have in place. Let her go without the expectation she will be back. I may find someone else in time, or she may face her issues and ask to try again, it really shouldn't matter. Just look at what I have to do for myself today. I want to get to the point where it doesn't keep hurting.