Just catching up. Admittedly, I am definitely not the person to ask about balancing dating, child rearing, and working full time. However, I have my kids at least 26 days a month as well. So, I can only offer this.
Your kids are young. Yes, you should pursue a relationship with someone you like if that is what you want. Many will probably disagree with this line of thinking, however, my kids are still struggling. They struggle with their dad's behavior. And while I have exactly zero desire to fix him, I feel like I need to be their anchor. Perhaps that is why dating is on the back burner for me. Because, regardless of whether I met someone fantastic, my top priority is my children. And honestly, I don't have much time to devote to a relationship. Do I think it would be nice to go to dinner with someone, watch sports, or just grab a drink? I do. I just know that I don't have the time to commit to a relationship. Perhaps when my kids get a bit older. That is just me though.
I think asking your H to step up is going to be a moot point. He is a big boy and deep down inside knows what he is doing which is putting himself first. I think you either have to get a baby sitter and possibly accept that at least for another year or so, you may not have as much time to devote to a R as you would like. That doesn't mean you can't have one. Not at all! Just be up front with New Guy. Just remember that everything is fluid. The way it is today isn't always the way it will be.
I dunno. That wasn't much help was it? Just my 2 cents. Sounds like you are doing well!
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
