M - To my knowledge, no. H will not be there, nor will any of the thugs. This is strictly the state. I don't think they meant to get me in quite this much trouble - but it is what happened. I think they intended me to spend the night in jail - not have my entire future on the line.
I say that because of the extortion attempt. They really believed that H's friend would be able to call and have the charges dropped if I agreed to their terms. H was highly agitated when he found out that wasn't an option. Now they're just hoping they don't get in trouble, too.
Anc. Have faith. You have never been in trouble before. Tons of stress. Health issues, etc. Hopefully your L is a good one, and the judge is understanding. It will be ok. Not great, but hopefully like community service, which you can treat as gal. Kind of a wrapped way to look at it, but if it happens treat it as "volunteer service"
35 3 boys Not my circus, not my monkeys anymore....
I can't believe he did that. What a pos. I'm so sorry, A.
I really can't imagine you have anything to worry abou regarding the court case. It seems obvious you were set up and the medication made you have a bad reaction. Not your fault.
For them to have such a short sighted thought process speaks volumes about their intellect. I'm sorry Ancaire but that's $hit for brains thinking.
I believe dday has it right with community service. Do it and make the world a better place. Be well my dear friend and don't fret, everything is going to be alright.
The judicial system may order you to go to some anger management classes and attend AA. It all depends upon how your lawyer represents your case to the court. You will most likely have to pay to have his vehicle repaired and do some community service.
As for them being short sighted, oh, yeah...that is so true.
Dress nicely, answer the questions and be sure to look directly at the judge when he speaks to you.
I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I've had another bad interaction with H. He just got the offer from my L for spousal support, and I've had to listen to spew about what a worthless piece of crap I am. He's going to have to live in a box. I'm stealing from the children. Etc, etc.
I tried walking away twice. Succeeded on the third try. That is progress. Solid progress would have been if I'd managed to get all the way out on the first effort - but this is the first time I successfully just turned around and kept going with my mouth screwed shut with him yelling at me to "get my *ss back in here!"
Nope. No thank you. I've heard enough. I really think next time (please, don't let there be a next time!!!) I will be able to just turn around without saying a word. I finally get it - it is obvious that when he's in full-on spew and attack mode, and I choose to engage, trying to get him to see my side - he's not really listening to what I'm saying. He's listening for an opening to jump in and attack me on.
Walking away is so hard. Because you have SOOOO much to say in return. But you are getting there. No need to cry. Rise above it. Look down on him and shake your head.
Me: 42 H: 45 M: 18 yrs T: 20 yrs D: 17 D: 15 S: 12 I kicked him out 8/21/15 I will DB until March 21st 2017, that is it!
Anc. Completely different subject... did you watch the webinar for Sonia ricotti? I saw you have quoted her.
I hope the rest of your day goes well. On the gal, can you go volunteer at a soup kitchen or somethimg? You are such a loving and caring person, and I have seen you mention cooking. Just an idea. It could give you purpose, take your mind off things, and get you away from h for a bit.
Good luck, sis!
35 3 boys Not my circus, not my monkeys anymore....
I'm proud of you Ancaire. It's not easy to not engage. But it is safer and healthier.
I hate your situation right now. I just wish I lived closer so I could stand behind you as he spewed. I bet I wouldn't even have to touch him to make him stop. But a part of me hopes I would need to touch him. Repeatedly. Maybe with a fist, maybe a shoe...
Stay strong to who you are and know you are loved by us all. And please try to stay healthy
Me-38 W-38; T-15 M-12; S10 and S6 BD - July 2016; EA confirmed; confronted Aug 2015 EA dissolved 12/2016
Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option - Maya Angelou
