Text. Me: Why did you have to do this? W: I don't know.
Hold out the back of your wrist. Smack smack smack! Now go stand in the corner for a 10 minute timeout.
Your W is in an affair and steeped in affair fog. While in that fog she's a crazy person. You can't ask rational questions and expect rational answers from a crazy person. "I don't know" is as good as it's going to get.
PLUS...you're supposed to be detaching, GAL'ing, and moving on. This text is a clear violation of that. I know you just want her to snap out of it and give you real answers. Hell, I know you want her to run into your arms right now, apologize profusely, profess her undying love for you, and beg your forgiveness. I get it. I've been there. I sent texts just like this AND GOT NOWHERE WITH THEM. My situation didn't turn until I truly moved on. Even though she says that's what she wants you to do she may act differently when you really do it. If she doesn't, and it's over, then at least you have your honest truth and you can move on.
No more pursuing. Don't make me smack your wrist again.
