B's 10-Week Bootcamp

[sandi2]

Let me turn this around and ask you the questions. Why would ask your D if she wanted you to go to her game, when you know perfectly well a kid is going to say yes?

Why would your W need to "remind" you? Do you have a memory problem and depend upon her reminders? Why would you think she might need to "invite" you? Is this not a game open to the public?

I mean, on the one hand, I want to go to support my daughter. However, I do not want to pursue or contact my W in any form. Not sure what my boundary here should be.

What does this have to do with boundaries?

If you think I should go, should I notify the W beforehand?

Why would you do that? Do you plan to go through life calling her in advance so the two of you don't run into each other? That's not being detached.

And if I go should I sit near her? (I'm scared of being seen as the one to act first in a certain way...but that may be the wrong way of looking at it.)

If you are separated, why would you feel like you have to sit anywhere near her just b/c she happens to be at the same thing?

I think you are making this all about your W, instead of your D. However, I understand how awkward you may feel the first time. If you use to go to the games, then go watch your D. If it's just a way for you to see your W, then you should not have brought up you going to your D. Time to evaluate your true intentions.