First time poster-needs advice

[rich4j]

MM

This is all real hard. I am a newbie but probably here too late.

You will struggle daily with this. I can only say that the advice I got on this board and started reading the book does make sense. I also saw a therapist who said the same thing.

It tugs at logic. How can i not try to fix things and show I am the right guy/gal for them? Look at the changes? Let's give it a chance!

I am a fighter and didn't want to give up on fixing things but you need 2 people to do this.

So you can only try to help yourself and not try to control him.