Reading others situations and really looking into my own has definitely opened my eyes. I am beginning to realize the things I need to work on, however I've now found a new fear. I am a fixer....I know this. Now that I realize what I need to work on I keep thinking that if I just fix myself I will "fix" the R. I can see that seems controlling, no wonder my H says that I am controlling him. I keep telling myself I'm not, but maybe I am? How can I convince myself that fixing me is for me, not for the R. That fixing me could very well not fix the R. I understand this logically, but cannot seem to accept it emotionally.
M: Early 40s H: late 30s 2 kids under 10 M: 15 yrs BD: 7/14 S: 10/14
