I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do. His biggest problem with me in our marriage was me checking out and not paying enough attention to him. But now we are separated, he "doesn't love me" and he is set on divorce.
Do I resort to LRT? I don't know if that will make it worse or better, for him to say "See, still not paying attention to me!" or if I just need to let him go to work through it?
I regret kicking him out on Christmas when I discovered the affair was ongoing, but he is using that as his springboard for separation. No looking back, just getting deeper into his affair. He had stopped using his regular phone to call the OW, but started using it again the past few days.
I'm also at the point where I think I need to get a lawyer to protect myself. I sent him a possible visitation schedule a few days ago and he didn't respond to it, except to say he'd review it. Then continues to wait until the day of to ask to come see the kids. His mood is swinging all over the place and I don't trust him to continue to provide money. Well, I don't trust him at all actually. I'm just nervous that going on the offensive will push him even further (although last night I had a thought that it really can't get worse, right?) I just really believe that we need something in writing for a separation (can't file for divorce until the baby arrives)
Finally, I know the advice is "Believe nothing of what they say"...is that true to the sudden "I don't love you" that he keeps repeating? Is there any chance he's just trying to convince himself he doesn't love me? I'm still numb after hearing that.
