Free, TxHubby just nailed it when he said " If I was you I'd lawyer up and file first. List infidelity as one of the reasons provide your proof. Even in a no-fault divorce state judges will be more kind to the betrayed spouse as far as division of assets. It will also make her despicable deeds public record."
IF your truly done, file, don't even tell her, let her be served at work.
