Well, moving out is our D. And there's no change of heart, so I guess we're done. For now. This is agony.
I know i'm having a big pity party for myself right now. you should see what I wrote then erased. Scary stuff.
I am not doing well at all. Sorry.
Your case has some unique aspects. I think your W is a people pleaser. She spends an hour alone with you and she regrets what she's done and is unsure. She spends time alone with OW and you get emails that are cold and basically telling you to get out of her life.
Who knows what she really wants. If you want her then I want you to get her but if this wasn't you in this sh!tstorm, let's say it was a good friend confiding all this in you (and she's in the position you are), or even another poster here telling your same story except that you get to read it as an objective party, what would you tell them? Would you tell them that they're W is too waffling, too flaky, and you're better off in the long run to move on? It's weird the advice that we would give others sometimes that we will refuse to give ourselves.
When I look at my situation from an objective 3rd party perspective I say "jeez, that husband is a sap. She played him for a chump and when she was going to lose him she turned on the waterworks and played him for a sap again because he took her back. That idiot should move on and find something better." That's the God's honest truth what I would think of my situation yet here I am, the sap, staying and working on it. Life can be a real mindf*ck sometimes.
