Is - I'm proud of you! This detaching business is hard work. It sounds like you're gaining a tiny bit of ground on that one. Let's see how you do in Greece. I realized I was detaching when I went hours without thinking about H. I also stopped crying everyday. I did cry a bit yesterday, but it was less about H, and more about the many ways my life is changing that I never wanted.
When I talk to him these days, I listen, I validate - but I don't believe much of what he says if it's about anything he is "feeling". He's now going on in this friendly fashion about what a wonderful person I am, and how he wants me to stay in his life.
To avoid an argument, I generally nod and smile - but I have no intention of keeping him an active part of my life! How could I? He lies as easily as he breathes. Unless I'm mistaken, too, from a male point of view - it sounds an awful lot like keeping me on the hook as his Plan B, in case he doesn't find the happiness he is seeking with a string of new OW.
I'm not sure how I feel about that - other than hugely hurt. I think he needs to feel the loss of me. As in, "she's gone - you lost her." Agree?
I hope you have a marvelous time in Greece. You already know how very jealous I am about it. Be sure and take pictures on your phone with you and the coworker. Why mention it before? Show her when you get back. <evil snicker>
Be sure and take pictures on your phone with you and the coworker. Why mention it before? Show her when you get back. <evil snicker>