No expectations, remember Cadet? Not expecting anything, just simply putting down the info on my page. I am calm these days. I wish her all the happiness in her life. I don't hold any grudges towards her. Yes I wish things were done differently, but alas, I have no control over her.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
Well I thought I should update. In less than two weeks time I will be getting married to a wonderful and beautiful woman I met over 20 months ago. I credit what I learnt from DivorceBusting with my new found wisdom :-) I have become a person who listens the proper way to my fiance. Who puts her first and foremost. Who can speak softly and without venom if I have felt wronged. I am going into this marriage without renewed energy, desire and love for this woman. Who has found a best friend. On the 17th December we fly out on our honeymoon. We will be leaving for Los Angeles having a few days there, before getting on a cruise from LA to Florida. I am such a happy person for so many reasons, but the biggest reason is who I have become. Without DB I would not be this person: someone who lives for the next day, is happy so much more and someone who enjoys all of life. I feel very privileged and thankful that both my boys came to our engagement and are quite happy to come to our wedding. That has meant a lot to me. Will update regularly.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
Really happy for you especially as we are similar ages.
It gives me hope that whatever happens I will be a better man and will find love again either with or without W
Man hugs to you hotwheels!
Me49 W45 T15 M13 S11 S8 BD 11/15/11 & 3/27/12 Moved out 4/9/12 Moved back 4/23/12 W working on US 5/20/12 Now Piecing! May-Oct14 drifting Dec 14 W agrees to more QT BD Oct15 ILYBINILWY W filed 1/25/16
Thank you both Ghost and isittoolate. While I haven't had a chance to read your sitches yet (will though), it does show that DB principles work, whether for your marriage, and we all hope for that one, or whether for you as a person. It also is nice to know that there is a future out there for us and if be another mate, it still is a great future. Becoming that better man is a great future.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
Another update: I got married to a wonderful woman 11 days ago. Things I have learnt from DB have helped me 1. to find a beautiful woman 2. to become a better man 3. accept what happened to my first marriage and acknowledge that I am responsible for me only 4. to accept I cannot change anyone else only me 5. know that only I can choose to be happy or not. In less than 24 hours my wife and I will be heading to the USA for our 3 week honeymoon. Heading to the States is something I have wanted to do since I was a child :-)
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
What a wonderful news!!! I am so happy to read that you've married to your lady friend. You've worked hard on yourself and I could not be happier for you. You deserve all the happiness in the world.
Thank you Wonka. At least now, I know I have to keep working on myself. I cannot let myself become routine. I was really pleased that both my sons came to the engagement party and the wedding. I asked them in advance if they were comfortable about coming, both replied all good. That meant a lot to me that they would be there for me.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
