I think I get it now. It's confusing to be in the place you're in when you can't believe what's true and what's not. I'm so sorry. I lived the rollercoaster for 2 months and it was hell. The before and the after haunt me, but less and less. At first I couldn't believe my world was crashing down. Then she went back and forth, trying to decide between us. I was a chump. I tried to be the person she'd be a fool to leave. I didn't yell or get angry (much). I tried to laugh. I tried to be patient. I stayed with a friend for a while, then I came back home. I've been very passive through all this, trying to give her space.

Then she chose the AP. Then she called to tell me that she has major concerns about the AP. WTH was that about? At first I was hopeful, then angry. Who is she to share that with me four days before the deadline she imposed on me to leave our home.

These are tough times for us all. I don't think it's easier to be a WAW. But if you choose that, I know you will have tried everything else there is.

Stay strong.

11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker
Reconciling since late April 2016
Don't give up until it's time, then move on
Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat