Battles of the sexes?

[JulieH]

Btw, I did initiate the conversation by coming out and asking directly why did he want to go out with me and kids..he said it was nice thing to do and for kids. (I have huge family and plenty of people to spend time with on my birthday) Then I just directly asked him if it was due to him wanting to work on reconciliation. Of course he tried to push answering off on another day like he has done in past. But he said if he did not want to work on reconciliation he would have filed and in different words basically said he was justified in doing so.

I am tired of the games...I'm not saying I am going to pick fights and pursue, but I think I need to be forward or this will go on forever. And you know something, if me being direct and to the point makes it so there is no reconciliation that's on him. I am at a point where I can leave as well and I am not going to worry about walking on egg shells. I am willing to make changes in some areas, but I am not willing to be put on a shelf until he is ready to deal.

This is not just about him and his crisis. It's about me as well. I Will work to move past things, I am willing to work on meeting his needs but a couple needs to communicate well for a marriage to work out.

Definatly need to read up on how to do my share and how to communicate.