Battles of the sexes?

[JulieH]

Ok. So after conversation, I think my husband does want to work on reconciliation,but is frusturated with our inability to communicate and our opposing perceptions. And I think he does not know what to do so we can stop being angry, .. He is very angry that I took him to court without discussing it. He basically said the fact that he is still around and hasn't filed after I did that shows that he is not done.

I felt mixed emotions. I feel like he is blaming me and constantly finding things against me to be angry about. It's all about him. Now it's the court thing. But he left prior to that. I feel like he is just going to be angry at me no matter what I say and do. I told him every time I asked him for state mandated CS he gave me a hard time. (I realize that in my perception it is all about me)

But I guess there is truth to the fact that he has not pursued ending it.

We talked about how he felt that none of his needs were met by me and then didn't want to be around. He understood the cycle that started. We both agreed that we weren't meeting each other's needs and understood that it was due to different ideas of how needs should be met. He said me asking about other women frusturated him to no ends because most men don't leave family because of other woman and that he left because it was much more serious. That he wanted out and that he was having health issues because of stress etc.

He said he told me he did not want to reconcile in October because I was pushing him and he was angry and then after felt different once I left him alone.

He said he wanted to continue to talk about this but had been mad after being at court and needed to move past it and has moved past it. (He is still mad)