IC is in the plan...that appt is at the end of the month though. He believes he has stated things like that (though truthfully, he hasn't laid out any 'roadmap' to getting better other than Kyrie has to change and I don't). Not looking for magic, just looking to stop making the same mistakes without burning bridges/going nuclear. He insists he's tried to lead us but I refuse to be on the same page as him, so he manipulates things by always pulling out that hammer, rather than dealing with things. Hopefully that makes sense. IOW he can *always* say that, and mean it, whenever the conversation goes in any way other than, H is always right and wife is a total failure.
Me: 42, H: 38 Married: 12 years (second M for me) 14D, 9D 2015 EA (PA??), porn addict, *pastor/counselor* MLC
At a counselor, he said he wanted the marriage but not to work on himself w/a IC. Piecing?
