Everything you say makes so much sense. I keep moving my boundary for when I've had enough. I'm absolutely terrified the job, I could get with his help, won't work out. I have no clue what I will do then. I will also do everything to make sure we can coexist peacefully for our daughter's sake. I can't imagine not being able to be in the same room as him. I know of people who do drops ofs and pick ups through a third party because they can't stand the sight of one another. I just can't do that to her.
I really don't think my H has a lawyer. He wouldn't spend the money unless he had to. And he probably knows that I would be very reluctant too. (Already consulted with one)
Just caught him in another lie. He is with OW. Spending the night with her before going away for more than a month. Guess it doesn't matter.
Thank you for weighing in, it is very much appreciated.
Mona and Rouky, I just met my friend for lunch. I only know her because we're both going through a divorce. She is further in the process and gives good advice. Thank you for your thoughts. I'm thinking of you two too.
You are worried about pick-ups/drop offs with a man who shows little concern for his D. He is forcing you out of suitable housing, he leaves for long periods of time, and he is pushing you out of the country (with what I think is a weak guarantee of coming to Europe once a month).
Your D is not his priority. You are not his priority. Your D has to be YOUR priority.
Is the place in Europe you are being forced to go, home? If not, would it be better to simply go home (if you leave the States) if you would have support there? If his job doesn't come through, will you be allowed to work in the country he is essentially sending you too?
I am unclear how you can hold him accountable for child/spousal support from Europe? What can you do from there if he stops paying?
I am not trying to make you nervous, but you need to protect yourself and your D even if you have to get a lawyer and go all in on getting what you need.
