She has her own issues with self-image, and very low libido. I'm working through my struggles, and praying that if God wants me to live in a sexless marriage, that I accept it, and continue to reconcile. It might just be that way - my wife sees no issue with zero intimacy. Yes, the Bible says this, that, all the marriage websites say to just do it, but to her, it's icky and gross, and she might not ever get over it. I have to accept that.
Unless there is a medical explanation for her "low libido", I would tend to think it's her excuse she has given you for a long time. I wasn't interested in having sex with my H, either. I blamed it on low libido, too. Funny thing, when I started my A, I discovered there was nothing wrong with my libido. I didn't want sex with my H b/c I wasn't emotionally connected or intimately connected and had did not feel attracted to him. It was as if my wiring had been clipped. OM comes along, and wham!
25yrsmlc said something that stuck with me. I had read men saying about the same thing and just thought that was how men felt, but she came along and said she would not consider staying in a sexless M. I have read others that said it is a form of abuse, for your S to tell you that they would simply not be having sex with you in the future. It's something to think about, Trumpet.
Are you really ready to face a future without any sex? And let me add this, too. I also learned that doctors can give a woman something to help her libido......if that truly is a problem for her. Like I said, a lot of women feel that way based on other issues in the MR.
Don't be too quick to think it's God plan or that you just have to accept this b/c your WW thinks sex is icky. She doesn't. She thinks it is icky with you b/c the attraction is gone.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
