Ugghhh, have I mentioned this is hard?

[kyrie]

I'm wondering if some of this...stuff... in how we treat the other person, our spouse ...is like shifting to seeing them as only a friend/room mate. That would imply different ways of relating to each other, detached from what a "transparent", open marriage relationship is.
IOW, you wouldn't snoop on a roommate (well, hopefully not! you wouldn't feel "entitled" to snoop anyway), you wouldn't chase after them, always try to please them, etc.
The tricky part is figuring out what you HAVE to work on together if you're still in the same house. Such as things with kids, or finances, etc.
But *feelings* are almost removed from the equation.

Am I getting closer here?
Just business, as I do w/my first husband?