I would agree with you. I think the problem is - you are acting like a man who would love to R, created a new M and work on building your family again. However, that's a two person contract and it isn't in place just now. Given that, perhaps you need to think about doing a 180 - acting like a man who accepts there won't be a R, who accepts there may be a future M with someone else, and who merely coparents? What do you have to lose? What you had has already been lost.

I agree that your soft approach is possibly maintaining the status quo....maybe it's time to make some serious GAL plans just for you?? Who knows, she may even become curious about what you're up to. Hey, EMMess just became a whole load more interesting and mysterious.... smile

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus