I hear what you're saying Cat. I also have heard this from him many many times and it always means the same thing, thus the second text just to reinforce it. I did not react to it at all - I just recognize it. Yeah, he's at the end of his rope. Am I supposed to do something, based on what you're saying here? My understanding is no.
Regarding your different question: kinda indifferent (I'd rather be doing other stuff, but it's good to clear things out, detach and not engage/be spewed upon. And that was my main goal. And yes, not thinking much about him, other than checking in here and catching up on Fo.2's sitch.
So, yes (reading your mind here - lol), I have been trying to redirect/refocus away from him anyway. Often I am successful, though not always. Yes, focusing on what I need to focus on about myself, prayer, etc. I get it.

Me: 42, H: 38
Married: 12 years (second M for me)
14D, 9D
2015 EA (PA??), porn addict, *pastor/counselor* MLC

At a counselor, he said he wanted the marriage but not to work on himself w/a IC. Piecing?