Submission sex isn't satisfactory to either party which ends up leading to resentment on both parties. He ends up wanting more enthusiastic better sex and she wants him to be happy she "submitted" and gave him sex at all (then later she tells OM that she felt raped).

IMO, sex either has to be a mutually enjoyable experience (or, at least, enjoyable for her) or it's just not worth it.

Sometimes the wives that don't like the icky'ness of it just need their husbands to wear a condom so there isn't any "mess" afterwards. They can just roll over and go to sleep while YOU go to the bathroom to "clean up" and flush the condom.

I apologize if I'm oversimplifying this complex issue. I've never really experienced this problem. But I can say the sex is much better in a recovered marriage when both of us are equally invested in meeting each others needs the way the other spouse likes those needs met.

The internet is 90% complaining and entitlement and I hate it because I deserve better!