Thank you. I have to say no and yes. Yes he knows that the phone code and the FB passwords are not okay anymore but no, it is not because I spoke to him about it. I said it during heated moments and he replied different answers each time. Ranging from A to Z but all saying no to transparency.
I do understand that it isn't as if we are piecing. We are both in a bad place. I am hurt and angry. And he is running from his own demons and if I'm honest from my mouth.
I got the advice (from a friend) to let the phone and passwords be for now. Do my best not to react when he is on his phone etc. And if, a huge IF, we get to a better place to bring it up then and as you said...if he doesn't agree to transparency at that point, then I have my answer.
He said so many things yesterday and I was just overwhelmed and wanted him out. I think I need my own space. I needed more from him and maybe he simply isn't in a place to give it to me.
I will post more on the conversation later but it does seem that he isn't as emotionally detached from me as I thought he was.
