Late to the game-2

[trumpet]

Free,

IF you are going the route you say you are, I hope you give everything a double and triple-check before you drop the bomb on her.

Do you want to have the bomb, and then give her a few days to reconsider once she starts to scurry? Sometimes WW snap out of it.

Or, do you want to have the R talk, drop the bomb, and then throw the book at her with the D and your lawyer? Subpoena her to death, for 401k records, current pay, all her monetary accounts, child custody/parenting plan, division of assets, etc.

The latter case will protect you the most, but will irrevocably alter/destroy your relationship with her.

My friend told me to pull out a piece of paper, and write 'what do I want' on one header, and 'what can I live with' on the other header. She might be willing to a fair division, but once you spin her carousel, you never know.