Need some help with perspective taking and how to respond.
Stbx and my parenting agreement states that we split D5's school vacations (a week in Feb and a week in april). My work calendar follows the school calendar so I have both of those weeks off.
Stbx at first agreed to take D5 for feb. He also said he "is not taking D on vacation that week" so he's trying to find coverage.
Then I get this in an email: Regarding Feb break, i havent heard back yet from (our part-time babysitter), so this point may ultimately be moot. But i wonder if you are planning to go away, and if not, whether you would spend tuesday / thursday morning with D5. I am confused why there is this assumption that if its my week, we have to pay for a class if the babysitter is unavailable. If you are on a vacation those days, i get it. But if not, I am not sure i understand your position."
I would like to get away for a few days (as he has done with his more flexible schedule many times). Isn't this just one of the consequences? How relevant is it that I have a vacation week,and is it unreasonable for me to hold him to our agreement. Am I entitled to my time off even if I'm not going away on a vacation?
I should add that he's recently told me about 3 or 4 instances where he won't be able to be with D5 on his parenting time because of work trips.
This has been our dynamic-- his position is logical and reasonable; mine is not.
I would like to go away for a few days but haven't made plans yet. Any thoughts on how to respond in a detached way?
