Well, she sounds like she's a bully who threatens people (or just you) to get her way. My suggestion is to get legal advice from your state, and find out what she can & can't do that would hurt you.
I feel sure she will use the child, as her leverage, b/c that's really all she has to hold over your head, isn't it? That's why you need a lawyer's advice. Also, he can tell you what to do about your finances. If it were me, I would be separating my money into a private account, before she wipes it clean. Cover yourself and all your bases.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
