Thank you so much Huddy, Mona, Fo, Scrant...really means a lot to me that you stopped by and posted such lovely things
I had a nice afternoon/early evening out and going back to my flat was OK. I slept very well and it felt very peaceful this morning.
I know I have managed to do this process once now, and I can face the second part of moving the rest of his things out with that knowledge.
So, thinking over how yesterday went with my MIL...I was ready (and expecting) a more neutral stance from my MIL towards me. Perhaps even a bit compassionate towards me for the end of our M?
I'm starting to think that they might not approve of how their son has/is behaving towards me/our M, and how this whole thing has/is unfolding?
I'm also wondering if they've maybe been able to see the intensity of his infatuation with OW, now that their R is out in the open? And they maybe don't quite approve of that?
All guesswork on my part, of course. What I do know is that both MIL and FIL were very, very fond of me. They both knew how much I loved their son, over a long, long time, and how much I supported him - and how much I tolerated as well.
H texted me yesterday afternoon to say thank you so much for packing everything up for him, changing my plans so he could get his documents in time (he had to submit them for a visa application).
I've not texted anything back yet but was maybe thinking something along the lines of: you're most welcome. I'll send you a text when the rest of your possessions and documents are ready, and we can arrange a time for them to be collected.
Should I add anything more? Something like: that may be in a couple of weeks from now.
I feel quite different now I've managed to face this hurdle and handle it with grace and elegance.
I've also been signed off my part time job with stress. I was getting people either feeling really concerned and sorry for me because they knew what had happened, or people asking me how my H was and what he was up to because they didn't know. And it was really, really stressing me out.
I feel much calmer now. And I'm trying to get on with everyday things a bit more.
